Thursday, March 22, 2012

Expect good things and GET MORE!!

Has life been meeting your expectations?  Exceeding them?  Failing them?  Whose fault is that?

IT'S YOUR FAULT!!@!!! (I didn't mean to put that @ there, but I thought it looked good...)

That's right- no matter what uncontrollable things have happened in life that might have been someone else's fault, whether or not life in general meets your expectations is your responsibility.  Whether or not anything meets your expectations is your responsibility.

How, you ask? (or maybe you don't- but I'm going to tell you anyway)

Ok, so imagine that you're driving to your local climbing gym because you have a class tonight.  But you got off work late, so you're rushing.  You get all down on yourself and listen to angsty music on the way there because you hate being late for things, and you know you're going to miss the beginning of class, and it's going to be less meaningful and you're going to look like an idiot.  Then you get there about five minutes late and the instructor isn't even around, nor is anyone else from the class.  Then you realize that you're the first person there and the instructor is elsewhere, just waiting for his other pupils to show up.  So it turns out that there was no risk of anyone thinking you were an idiot (unless you were wearing clown shoes or something) or missing any part of the class.  The class turns out to be incredibly fun and you find a new climbing partner and your instructor is awesome and your whole day just got (literally) 76 times better.  (in case you were wondering, that example is in fact based on a true story...actually it is a true happened today...minus the clown shoes.)

So basically, if you had just said, "well I'm going to be late and that's that.  The class will still be fun, because you'll be with fun people.  Plus, the other two classes you took started late anyway.  You'll be fine," then, not only could you have had a better car ride to the gym, but you could also have better appreciated everything that happened.

But that begs the question, wouldn't it be better to lower your expectations all the time, so everything seems better?  I used to think that, but DON'T BELIEVE IT!  IT'S NOT TRUE!!  Expecting the worst and getting the best is never really what happens.  It only feels that way because of your expectations.  It's a FALSE BEST.  Reality is always better than false goodness.  Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  Plus, if you expect more, you'll usually get more, instead of getting mediocrity and thinking it's awesome.


  1. I like this post a lot! Hard to pull off, but worth the effort nonetheless.